According the latest research from the Dr Galena Rhodes in the US - she has produced interesting data about marriages caeteris paribus that having a big weeding with many guests - all least 150 to witness the happy day - you are more likely to succeed. Of course this correlation is not a causal argument but its looks at face value worth unpicking. Moreover on balance its best not to have had too many partners pre-marriage because of the likelihood of comparisons being made with your new wife/husband. They don't say - how many is too many! Having family and friends witness the occasion provides a 'bulwark' against the vicissitudes of any marriage. There is a reference point to look back on when the going gets tough as it always will.
I was often struct as a couple and family therapists after 40 years of working in the NHS and privately why some marriages succeeded and others did not? I would give them a questionnaire to fill out after the first session at home. They had to 'guess' how the other partner would answer the question. This gave my invaluable information about their relationship and how much they understood each other.
One of the questions was about their respective attitudes to money. Always a 'trap door' for all marriages. The other most important question was their attitudes to sex? If one wanted frequent sex and the other one didn't this would cause tension in the relationship and was always fatal. Being comparable in these two areas was necessary but not sufficient for a good marriage.
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